My Soap Box- For Better or For Worse.

**NOTE: I try to stay away from topics of controversy on my blog most of the time, but today I'm going to let my freak flag fly and say whats on my mind. I hope this doesnt offend or hurt anyone's feelings, and I sincerely apologize if it does.**

I went to the gym this morning with Trevor since he was visiting this weekend (yay!)

and while Trevor was finishing his 485,035 hour workout

(I was quite content after a run and some squats)

 I decided to see what magazines the gym had on tap.

I settled on the latest issue of "Women's Health."

 (source: www.womenshealth.com)

 

I should read this more often.

It had a lot of great tips in it, 

and while I may not be quite as motivated as my gym rat boyfriend,

I do unfortunately feel the need to workout on a regular basis.

Anyways.

I was reading this magazine and came to an article titled

"{How Not to Be} The Starter Wife"

To summarize, the article talks about something that has been on my mind a lot recently.

My generation's approach to marriage and relationships.

According to Women's Health magazine, 29% of women who divorce in the U.S. were married between the ages of 20-24.

Now,

I am NOT at all saying that all women (and definitely not all men) 

at these ages should run off right now and get hitched.

But  it frustrates me that so many people blame these people's ages for their unsuccessful marriage.

In generations before us, people got married WAY younger than us, 

and yet the U.S.'s divorce rates have only increased.
One of my favorite blogs that I read is called Confessions of a Young Married Couple,
and is written by a 27 year old redhead named Katie,
who was married to her high school sweetheart when they were both 22.
They were engaged at 20.
If you read this blog, you'll see that their happy marriage has nothing to do with their age.
It has everything to do with their perspective on relationships and commitment.

 It's funny that I came across this article because days ago I was talking with my friend Kate about our generations tendency to want to "Edit and Delete" our lives.

I'm totally not taking myself out of that loop by any means.

I get terrified at the idea of sending an email because I know I can't take it back.

We have been raised with technology that allows us to open blank documents, delete files, 

and retouch our photos.

We edit or undo things on a daily basis.

 This is a blessing,

but we are taking that kind of mentality into our relationships.

I'm not saying that divorce isn't necessary.

I come from a home of divorced parents and it was completely warrented 

and I am thankful that it was an option.

Getting out of an unhealthy relationship or marriage is more than understandable,

it's necessary.

But now people are getting divorced because they "fell out of love" or they "can't communicate well" or they "just grew apart." 

I am pretty sure that every 90 year old married couple can tell you that they felt ALL of those things in their marriage at one time or another.

But when I'm 90 years old and sittin in my rockin chair,

I hope I can look at the person who is rockin' next to me with a smile.

Because at the end of such a long road,

Are those the times that you're going to remember?

This article says it all better than I can.

Take a look if you're interested!

{How Not to Be} The Starter Wife.

'Til next time...




-C

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